12月05日

尊敬的各位家长：您们好！

This week's class we covered the following content.

[成長點滴]

張帆：做到父母呼, 應勿緩; 給爸爸搥背; 關心爸爸, 雨天給爸爸打傘(小孩給成年人打傘, 一定不容易); 媽媽在圖書館, 給媽媽送飯.
張磊：主動做作業; 吃飯快, 不剩飯; 朝早起, alarm 響時, 顧慮到媽媽在睡, 趕緊關上鬧鐘; 聽從父母的話.
杨安妮 （四岁）：帮妈妈做蛋糕。 早晚讀誦弟子規; 給客人端茶水; 和小朋友分享食物; 給家裡小猫咪講弟子規 ( we believe this cat will be very intelligent);
譚丁銘：聽媽媽講道理，媽媽說不買他想要東西，能順從媽媽。
譚聖育民：帮妈妈做蛋糕。照顧小弟弟。
趙珮鈞：在校對老師很有禮貌。
葉芃：改正以往做作業拖拉的習慣。自從學弟子規後，在校表現好，老師寫表揚信給家長。（媽媽兩年來首次受到這樣的信）

[经文学习]
人不閒，勿事攪。人不安，勿話擾。

生活中如何運用？電話禮節
父母不安時，我們該怎麼辦？　（崔孝誠答：哄哄他們！）

[說文解字]

閒

徐鍇曰：“夫門夜閉，閉而見月光，是有閒".
我告訴孩子們, 中國文字很優美. 試想: 夜晚閉鎖門戶 (身心已閒), 抬頭, 一輪朗月在空. "閒"的意境呼之欲出.

安

Several years ago, one of my colleague, Fouad, approached me and wrote a big Chinese character "安" on the white board (He was learning Chinese at that moment). He told me this character was very interesting. The upper part signified a house and lower part a woman. "安" meant that if there is a mom at home, we are safe and feel peaceful. "How beautiful your language is!" he said so.

I would like to recommend 梁冬的國學堂 -- "太美"系列節目:
中國文字太美
中國飲食太美
中國中醫太美
中國文化太美

You can baidu or google these words and find lots of audio files related to this program.

[課堂討論]

什麼是聰明?
聰明不是智商高, 而是如孔子所說 "聽思聰, 視思明". 能聽到看到, 感受到別人的需要.

[复习]

勿諂富，勿驕貧，勿厭故，勿喜新

故事：宋弘念旧 （汉宋弘为司空时。光武姊湖阳公主新寡。帝与共论朝臣。微观其意。主曰。宋公威容德器。群臣莫及。帝因谓弘曰。谚云。贵易交。富易妻。人情乎。弘曰。臣闻贫贱之交不可忘。糟糠之妻不下堂。帝谓主曰。事不谐矣。）


[作業]

百善孝为先: 親所好, 力為具. (我要求孩子們能感受父母的需要, 做些父母喜歡的事)
二十四孝: 戲彩娛親

老萊子對於奉養雙親，總是想盡辦法給他們很甘甜和柔脆的食物。雖然已經七十歲，但從不會說自己老長，其中《禮記》記載：「父母在，互言不稱老」。而且經常穿著一些五彩斑斕的衣服，故意裝作小孩的形態，在雙親眼前戲舞、戲弄小鳥，做出孩兒玩耍的樣子，想逗爹娘開心；另外曾取兩桶水挑到堂上來，故意跌倒在地上，便裝出小孩般地大哭起來，娛悅他的父母。後來以「老萊衣」比喻對老人的孝順.

常礼举要：碗中不留饭粒 (解釋唐詩 <<愍農>>)

[故事]

烏鴉：An 80 year old man was sitting on the sofa in his house along with his 45 years old highly educated son. Suddenly a crow perched on their window. ... ( http://www.heartnsouls.com/stories/j/s925.shtml )

江帆 敬書於大雪日

11月28日

Dear all parents,

Another week passed by. We have following updates for this class.

Homework:

百善孝为先：

父母責，須順承.  From many of your feedback, I noticed when receiving scolding (責) from parents, some of children tend to rebut ("回嘴"，"犟嘴"，"頂嘴" all these words are shown in the feedback forms). Now they were requested not to rebut towards parent. Even when they think they are

right and parents are wrong, they can discuss it when parents are calm. I just asked them to follow this and I understand it's not easy even for the adults.

二十四孝：蘆衣順母（周朝閔子騫)

常礼举要：

朝起早. Children were asked to wake up a bit early each morning to read

弟子規. Some of you expressed that how difficulty it is for kids to wake

up on time every morning. This week, we all work on this. Provide them

a alarm so that they organize themselves properly.

成長點滴：

張帆：給爸爸端洗腳水； 平時在校有禮貌地和老師打招呼。

張磊：謙讓弟弟；在地鐵讓座給爸爸。

程迪：分享食品給同學；堅持每天寫漢字，坐姿很端正；專注地臉小提琴。

趙珮鈞：在校下課時，主動向老師鞠躬；幫媽媽疊衣服；飯前，叫父母吃飯。

莊靜華：熱情招待客人，給他們端水；星期天自己煮飯，并先為媽媽預留飯菜，自己才吃；自己整理書柜，書桌，房間；犯錯后，主動向媽媽示好并承認錯誤；幫姥姥熱暖包；每天洗自己小衣物。

葉芃：認真做作業

江淮：鞠躬向長輩道晚安，態度恭敬；犯錯受父親批評，過后鞠躬說："爸爸，我做的不對，我錯了。"

经文学习：

勿諂富，勿驕貧，勿厭故，勿喜新

故事 --

1. 伯巨探友

荀巨伯远看友人疾，值胡贼攻郡，友人语巨伯曰："吾今死矣，子可去。"巨伯曰："远来相视，子令吾去，败义以求生，岂荀巨伯所行耶？"贼既至，谓巨伯曰："大军至，一郡尽空，汝何男子，而敢独止？"巨伯曰："友人有疾，不忍委之，宁以我身代友人命。"贼相谓曰："我辈无义之人，而入有义之国。"遂班军而还。一郡并获全。（《世说新语》）

2. 荒島三友

有三個朋友一起出遊，到海上旅遊。剛好遇到大風浪，結果船沈下來。幸好三個人祖宗有德，沒死，漂到了一個荒島上，三個人在那裏相依為命。突然在這個沙灘上發現了一個神燈。諸位朋友，看到神燈要怎麼樣？幸好他們有讀過《阿拉丁神燈》，把它擦一擦。結果這麼一擦，這精靈出來了，他說：主人，我給你們三個願望，不過因為你們有三個人，三除於三等於一，一個人一個。結果這第一個因為他是開計程車的，他說我每天早也開晚也開，很辛苦，我的願望是可以有好幾台計程車租給別人，我當老闆。這個精靈說：小事一件。他就回去當他的計程車老闆。第二個在超級市場當雇員，有時候還要三班輪值，半夜還要值大夜班，所以他說當這個也很辛苦，我希望能夠自己擁有一家便利商店，我當老闆請人家來做。這個精靈說：小事一件。怎麼樣？就回去了。第三個人想了半天，平生無大志，只求六十分，也沒想過要幹什麼，所以都沒什麼願望，整天悠悠放任。他突然就想：我沒什麼願望，不過這個荒島也不錯，但是我一個人在這裏太寂寞了，我希望他們兩個回來陪我。有沒有聽到兩聲哀號？（幸福人生講座-細講《弟子規》

第四十集））

論語 -- I explained some sentences from this classic book related to

this topic. I know this can be a bit tough for younger kids.

子貢曰："貧而無諂，富而無驕。何如？"子曰："可也。未若貧而樂，富而好禮者也。"子貢曰："詩云：如切如磋，如琢如磨。其斯之謂與？"子曰："賜也，始可與言詩已矣。告諸往而知來者。"

子曰："富與貴，是人之所欲也，不以其道得之，不處也。貧與賤，是人這所惡也，不以其道得之，不去也。君子去仁，惡乎成名？君子無終食之間違仁，造次必於是，顛沛必於是。"

子曰："貧而無怨難，富而無驕易。"

子曰："君子謀道不謀食。耕者，餒在其中矣；學也，祿在其中矣。君子憂道不憂貧。"

子曰："賢哉回也！一簞食，一瓢飲，在陋巷，人不堪其憂，回也不改其樂。賢在回也！"

子曰："飯疏食，飲水，曲肱而枕之，樂亦在其中矣。不義而富且貴，於我如浮雲。"

子曰：溫故而知新，可以為師矣。

课堂讨论：

什麼樣的人是真正的朋友？

Best regards,

江帆 敬書

11月21日

Dear all parents,

This week we have three new students joining us. The class seems to be crowded now. We will ask janitor to add more table and chairs in the class.

Feedback sharing:
Thank you for filling the feedback sheet. Here is some highlights:
杨安妮 （四岁）：帮妈妈剥蒜瓣。 给猫咪喂饭。Shopping 时帮妈妈搬东西
栾茗荃 （八岁）：衣物摆放比以前整齐。写完作业主动收拾书桌。做完游戏收拾玩具。帮父母拿碗筷
程迪 （四岁）：早上主动朗诵弟子规。每晚自己准备第二天衣物。在幼儿园主动问老师好 （以前即使妈妈提醒也不开口）
江淮 （八岁）：哥哥受妈妈批评后，安慰哥哥。妈妈生病，嘴唇起泡，亲妈妈患处，说“这样会好得快些”
。。。

[Homework]
Review and continue last four homeworks.
孝行:
父母呼， 应勿缓
冬则温 (给父母温暖) - 暖被窝， 端洗脚水， 热暖水袋 。。。
晨则省昏则定。 I asked students to greet their parents (you) after getting up in the morning and before going to bed in at night.

常礼举要:
Prepare themselves well and wear warmly before leaving home -- "冠必正 纽必结 袜与履 俱紧切".
双手奉接物品
电话礼节
arrange personal stuff after returning home from outside -- "置冠服 有定位"


经文学习
"己有能。勿自私。"

We we're discussing about not to be selfish. When asked what can we share with others, students came up with the following:
Money, food, animal, things, capability, LOVE, etc.

They were told that to be selfish means the heart is so small that it can only hold "ego" (我). When asked who we should put into our heart, they said:
Parents, relatives, friends, brothers/sisters, animal, the whole world (this answer surprised me most)

When asked who can possess the whole world in his heart, the answers were:
Martin Luther King, 孔子， 孟子， Gandhi ...

We really enjoyed our conversation. It's full of fun.

"人所能。勿轻訾。"

Not to be jealous. We shared a story about “李斯因嫉妒害死韩非子” http://book.sina.com.cn/longbook/his/1110945539_haibanzhanguo/72.shtml

课堂讨论

What’s is happiness? How to achieve happiness? The index of happiness. (some ideas are from book "The art of happiness" by Dalai Lama)

Parent class

Don't have enough time to write this section. We had really wonderful discussion. Next session will be leaded by Ms. You.

Enjoy,

fan